There's a new trend rippling through the dating world that tends to split couples faster than a pair of pantyhose colliding with a Stanley knife. I noticed it after countless cautionary tales hit my inbox from a myriad of bloggers, forcing me to realize that we're in danger of it becoming a full-blown epidemic, unless you're all severely warned.
It starts with the chase.
Boy likes girl, boy chases girl, boy finally gets girl. But as soon as she starts to show some real "feelings", off he goes flying in the other direction, faster than she can ask him what he thinks of the baby names she's picked out. (Hint: Never ever do this.)
So what goes wrong?
While most blokes won't deny they like as much bedroom action as they can get (as many times a week as possible), its other behaviours that start to niggle at their brain. The woman they once fearlessly chased, no longer sits on her high pedestal. She calls too often, sleeps over too many nights of the week and her incessant nagging in relation to his whereabouts is driving him up the wall.
Hence he runs ...
The poor bloke is feeling suffocated, claustrophobic and left wondering where the heck the "I" vanished to, because all he hears is "we"!
Introducing the relationship space-invaders.
An ex-roommate of mine is one such invader. After the initial honeymoon stage wore off with her new beau, she began to let her true feelings show. Big mistake.
Horror-struck, my friend forwarded me the story which claims that the reason women go so cuckoo over their men, is thanks to our DNA.
"One of the most amazing traits in women is our ability to submerge ourselves into the man of our desire," the story explains.
"Women become attached emotionally, some very quickly, and assume that the man shares these same feelings and desires. However, this can be a sure-fire way to push the 'man of your dreams' out of your life." Ouch.
Psychologists reckon the key to combating the space invader syndrome is simple. Negotiate your time together and your time apart, pencil in some "alone time" into your schedules, and learn to trust that when they're not spending every waking hour with you, they're not gallivanting around the single's scene with their pants down and their nipples out.
And above all, stop following him when you aren't together, "Men aren't stupid; they see your car parked down the street". No wonder my ex-roommate has been dumped ...
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