Letting Go

One thing that people seemed to be having hard time doing is letting go. It is difficult especially if we have created our own little world around that someone and expected to spend the rest of our lives with him/her only to be awaken by realization that he/she doesn't feel the same way.

Most people would say that in order to heal, you have to keep yourself busy. Sure it helps but it doesn't solve the problem.

I know because I've done it myself.

Denial.
It was hard to admit to myself that the reason why I pushed myself to the limit at work was because I was still hurting. I made myself believe that I'm over it, I'm okay and to prove it, I worked hard to get better results. I didn't know I was just pretending, not to other people, but to myself.

Blame.
Self-pity is one of the common reactions after a heartache. I tend to compare myself to other people and blame it on the other person for making me feel unworthy and unloved. And then I blame myself for what happened. Whether I admit it or not, I tried to change the way I look, the way I talk or the way I live my life because I thought who I was wasn't enough for anyone.


Letting Go.
We can't put blame on anyone when it comes to love. It happens because it has to happen. There are things that we can't do anything about. All we can do is accept that it already happened. That might be difficult to do at first and it is understandable.

Don't try to deny that you're hurting. Especially not to yourself. Cry if you must. Get mad if you have to. But always make sure that after the tears, you let go of the anger; after the blame, you learn from it and start appreciating what you have instead of changing who you are.

After all, there will always be someone out there who will love you for who you are. You just have to fall for wrong people in order to appreciate the right one when he/she comes along.