Experts reckon the key to telling whether a person is interested in you is to look at their shoes. Yep, if someone's got the hots for you they'll subconsciously point their feet towards yours.
"Toes-turned-in posture occurs when someone feels both smitten and somewhat intimidated by you". By reckoning sexual signals in the form of body language is nothing new. "For all of our technological advances and psychological insights, when it comes to the silent signs of sexual attraction, we are no different than beasts. "For the past 500 million years, every member of the animal kingdom has utilised certain signals to communicate their interest in mating. These boil down to the message: 'I am harmless; I won't bite.' "
And while a quick sneak peak at their shoes proves that your date might indeed not bite, the signs don't stop there ...
According to Britain's Social Issues Research Centre, a whopping 93 per cent of our communication is actually through our gestures. In other words, we shouldn't listen to a darn word anyone is saying!
Yet deciphering the meaning of hands, feet and faces is no easy feat. In fact dating expert Tracey Cox reckons that most men get it wrong most of the time. "What [men] think is a direct come-on is often experimental flirting on our part - or sheer politeness," she writes in her tome Hot Relationships: How To Have One.
"Ahuh! No wonder I'm not getting any action," chuckles my perpetually single friend when I tell him Cox's theory. Yet he's still mighty curious. "What exactly are the signs?" he desperately wants to know.
Cue in the eyebrow flash. "When we first see someone we're attracted to, our eyebrows rise and fall," says Cox who dubs the move a crucial telltale sign they're interested.
Once they've crossed over to your side of the room it then takes roughly 90 seconds to decide if they're into you or not. If they like what they see they'll stare intensely at your eyes, the size of their pupils will increase, they'll blink a lot and they'll stare at your mouth.
Women in lust will lick their lips, twirl their hair, uncross and cross their legs, and fondle with cylindrical objects like the stem of their wine glass or a pen. Men will fix their tie, pull up their socks and jut out their chests. (And don't forget to check out their feet ... )
Body language is also the key to uncovering a liar.
Did that cute Lothario you've just met tell you he's a professional boxer or a bikini waxer? Did the sexy femme you've bought a drink for claim she was an air hostess, or Britney Spears's personal assistant? Is your partner umming and ahhing over where they were last night? Or claiming they didn't bounce the credit card?
Red flag number one: face touching. When Bill Clinton was questioned over the Monica Lewinsky scandal he immediately reached up and touched his nose after declaring he didn't do it.
And it's not only Bill who proved this point. With loads of scientific studies to back this one up, apparently when people cover their mouths it's a subconscious sign about what they're saying. Their ears turn red, they rub their nose, they shift their eye contact, turn their body slightly, sweat, use excessive hand movements and chew the inside of their mouth.
And if their feet are pointing away from yours? Then you know they're lying...
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