Getting your ex back (and is it worth trying?)

"The problem with romance is that it doesn't always deliver the goods." And boy, don't we know it! Break-ups, make-ups, game-playing, cheating, lying, clandestine sex (and video tapes to prove it) have all aided in giving modern love, sex and relationships one mighty bad wrap.

Add to that the ubiquitous trend of so-called new serial monogamy in which "till death do us part" has been replaced by "till someone better comes along" and it's easy to see why most of us have experienced the wrath of a gut-wrenching break-up that propels us onto our emotional death-bed ...
The trouble is that all the hurt, tears and pain don't stop there either. Imagine that, after a few days, (or months if it's really that bad), you finally manage to get off your tear-sodden sofa for a night out with your mates, only to spot your ex in the corner of the pub ensconced in a passionate embrace with their new fitter, blonder, better-looking date, barely even taking a break from their tonsil-hockey to notice your new haircut!
Yep, suffice it to say that "break-ups hurt like a motherf------", I did it for myself, too.

It's no wonder we can't get over them either considering that, in the age of technological advancements, a lazy nip online can give you more ex-information than you ever bargained for.
Add to that all the Facebook poking (only to discover compromising pics of your ex and their new flame and lovey-dovey messages on their Wall), Google-stalking, driving past their place at midnight (by a friend of mine who shall remain nameless) and it's not difficult to see why our exes are infiltrating our lives more than ever before.

Should you get your ex back?
"Everyone wants what they can't have," is a cliche that I'd like to believe is complete and utter bollocks. Unfortunately it's been proven time and time again (especially on this blog) that it's not such a batty statement after all. Especially when it comes to love.
When we've got it in the palm of our sweaty hands, we can take it for granted, toss it to one side when something more exciting comes our way and discard it like last night's dinner when we feel we'd like to "find ourselves" without a partner (and all their irritating quirks) standing in our way.
But suddenly we find ourselves desperately wanting them back. We can't sleep, eat or believe we'll live without knowing that we've done everything in our power to win them back. The trouble with it all is that getting back an ex is no easy feat. In fact, if they've moved on or you've broken their heart, it's near damn impossible.
The solution? Reader Scorpio has come up with something that's either the most darn romantic I've ever heard of, or the most hopeless. Either way, my story is this:

"Until very recently I had been going out with a lovely guy for roughly five months. It hadn't been easy as he had just came out of a really destructive relationship that ended in divorce and I had trust/confidence issues due to a past relationship which lapsed into irrelevancy. There was also the minuscule issue of age and a difference in culture. Our insecurities usually collided and it created a lot of arguments; most of which I actively and regretfully instigated.

"Anyway he broke up with me. It is strange as you don't acknowledge how unprepared you are to face the world when someone you truly respect rescinds their love for you.

"I wrote him a letter as the hurt was too intense to talk about with him directly. In the letter I displayed a time, date and location to meet me at if he wanted to give things another go. What made the letter so unusual was that the above arrangement. So I have given him the option - whether he is inspired by my change as a person or even remembers the details is really up to him. There is also the situation where he doesn't want to speak as he may just want to start a new page or could even find himself in a new relationship.

"It is an interesting concept that I want to give a try. Even if I find myself the only one who manages to show on the day, I can at least walk away with my head held high knowing I followed my heart.
"I just wish we had both met at different times in our lives as the connection and prospect of having a great relationship was, and still very much is, there. Provided that we both go away and do what is needed to be better partners... Is there potential for reuniting? Or should I hang up the boots and move on?"it's been almost eleven months now...