They're the Total Package. Why Are They Single?

Sometimes you meet people who immediately engage you. You're taken by their energy, their good looks, their kindness. They talk to you—not at you. They ask you questions, are genuinely interested in finding out about you. You learn about them. They have a great job, have loads of friends, always are doing interesting things. But then you find out they're single, and have been for a long time.

This is when you hit the brakes. "If you're single, what chance do I have?" you might ask if you, too, are single. There are people out there who could qualify as being the "total package": great personality, good looks, successful. And when you find out they're single, you have to scratch your head. Sometimes they choose to be single, that their life is better when they're free to do whatever they want. But other times, they can't seem to make it click. Why is this?

I have a few friends—both gay and straight, male and female—who are in their mid- to late-30s and can't seem to make a relationship flourish. Some of them are totally ok with that, but others are depressed and really want to find a partner to share their life with. Why is it that there are people who are always in a relationship and they're possibly the most annoying people you encounter in your life? How is it that someone who grates on your nerves is able to get a boyfriend or girlfriend and the ones who are deemed a great catch continue to remain single?

So what do you think: Are these people afraid to commit or are they just better off being single?

I myself wonder why I am still single? It's really a tough question as we both have our own likeness and differences in tastes, matches and etc, I have come to realize, only do what you really want, not because you need to. All answers are in our hands, we just like to play with the puzzle which we ourselves know already ' why".

I want a real man!