In public eyes, she’s look pity and suffering. Everyone knew his man had
been cheated on her. But, why until now she’s still standing by his
side? In relationship, accepting your partner for who he is, are good
thing but if his behaviours are more into flirting and affairs, would
you continue stand by him? Maybe it’s okay to give him second chance if
he regret for what he did and asking for forgiveness. But, if he takes
advantage of your generosity, is it worthy to get heart broken for
another infidelity? Some girls, so patient in maintaining their
relationship to prove how good they are in keeping their guy stay
beside them. No matter how bad things get, they just can’t let their
cheating guys go.
The question is, why? Does it for life warranty, financial support,
dignity, selfishness or love? No matter how much we guess the reason
why and feel sorry for them, for sure, these girls have their own point
of view regarding their man. However, staying with man who continuously
betrays you in long-term is not healthy. It may causes to depression,
boredom or mentality problem if you keep pushing yourself into the
unfair relationship. Why annihilate your future and changes in finding
a better man just for one cheating guy? So, now, should you forgive him
or, walk away, fast?
Keep staying or let go?
Sometimes,women in love keep the other eyes close when things goes wrong with
their man to avoid more troubles in future. They believe that men have
their transition time at certain ages and everything going to be
alright when that phases elapse. But, we all know, there’s no such
thing! Men who stray shouldn’t eligible for forgiveness. But, every
woman has their own reasons to stay and maintain their relationship.
Married women who have children are more compromise to protect her
family and normally they will give more than one chances for their
partner to change their bad behaviors. They choose to stay and put
extra effort to solve problems for the sake of the kids and themselves.
Actually trying to work things out is a good reason because if they can survives
and start a new life as a couple, it will give a good example to the
kids to stick into commitment. Some women prefer to work things out
because they knew problems wouldn’t solve if they run away and afraid
to face the truth. I believes certain mistakes (continues cheater or
physically or mentality castigation) don’t deserves any forgiveness,
but all humans make mistakes. To work things out and gives the second
chance might not bring into sudden alteration, but, at least, you
already give a try. It’s better than do nothing, right? How about you?
Never ending infidelity or last battle?
“If he’s unfaithful once, no wonder if he’ll do it again!” Words of advice
we always heard when man betrayed his wife. Does it mean we can’t trust
our partner anymore? Well, we all know how painful we are when our man
betrayed our trust and our love and having an affair behind our back.
But nothing is more hurtful than catching him in the act! If you, would
you forgive him? You knew your men cheated on you and you bring that
issue into discussions - he asking for your forgiveness – and you give
him second chance to prove his loyalty and desirability to go on with
the relationship. That’s okay! At least, you’re not watching that
“tiger show” in front of your eyes. Speechless, shocking or slapping
him might be the answers, but to forgive or give him another chance is
far more.
Does it make senses to forgive if he dares to do it vividly? Why protect
someone who doesn’t respect you? It’s not worthy and he doesn’t deserve
you or your love. If you think to take him back because the memories -
about the time you’ve been spend together and how good he is in the
past or other reasons doesn’t give any big point for you to pretend
nothing ever happens. When considering whether to forgive him, ask
yourself, “What’s in it for me?” Remember, you deserves better. No
matter how good he is in the beginning of the relationship, don’t
regret or blame yourself for leaving him because of his infidelity, but
think about your future.
Is there any hope?
Some women give all their heart and soul to their man with hope they’ll
appreciate them forever. So, when their man being unfaithful, it’s hard
for them to forgive because it leave deep wound in their heart.
However, when it comes to love, women become weak as they believe that
their true love will make him change. But, does reformed rakes really
exists in reality? Are you sure your man will change if you give him
every chance he needs? You can’t denied how much you love him when
you’re ready to forgive him for cheating and give him another go to
correct his mistakes – on the proviso no more infidelity. He confess
for his sin and seemed so devastated at the thought of losing you and
said that you’re the one in his life – and you believes him just like
that.
You believe that by giving him another chance and show him your love will
make everything alright but it can be an unrealistic hope. He regrets
and promises not to cheat on you anymore, but how long he will stand up
for his words? He’s already gains your trust but it doesn’t mean he’ll
chance forever. No wonder if he’ll do it again – as people says,
“leopard never changes it spots”. So, if you find him did wrong again
behind your back, don’t hesitate to leave him and never ever take any
excuses from him. I believe everyone deserves one more chance, but if
he abuses your trust yet again, nothing much we can do about it other
than let him go….freely! Good for your happiness and for better future.
Want to maintain and keep the relationship alive?
It’s sad to know that your partner never put an effort to change their
behaviour, but it doesn’t mean you despair or losing your hope and walk
away just like that. If you really think that the relationship can be
salvaged and you believe you both can work on it, keep going. Also make
sure he wants the same things and ready to make commitment. Plan
something which will give benefits for both of you but don’t play the
victim – set out some ground rules. Maybe you both can talk with a
psychologist or counselor to learn new skills together. Besides, by
giving each other a second chance will teaches you both to be more
responsibility to the relationship. A relationship which is reformed
from failure is stronger and the experience will give you strength to
face other obstacles in future.
You might think it is dangerous by taking risk and put yourself into
unreliable hopes because at the end, it might cause you to lose
yourself, which could be more heartbreaking and lonely in the long run.
But, standing up for yourself is more important than standing by him.
One day you’ll realize nothing to regret in life when we know what we’d
done make us a better person tomorrow and in future.
Breaking the promises?
It’s easy to make promises but not everyone can do exactly as they had
promised to. So, if your man says he’s going to put hundred percent
efforts to overhaul himself, take a deep look and remember one
important thing: Actions speak louder than words! Nothing will changes
if he just makes promises, do his part and follow you to counseling
room yet doesn’t applied it into his daily routine. Don’t be deceived
by his words but pay attention to his actions. Use your instinct
wisely, you’ll know if he’s committed or not and don’t let him take
advantage on your kindness.
Don’t let love cover your eyesight and your assessment, be rational; loving
him doesn’t mean you have to be in a relationship with him, right? Show
him your compassion, sympathy and another chance, but don’t forget to
give the same opportunity to yourself. If he really means it, he should
show it, sincerely. And it’s not only you who makes the move but he
should show his earnest too. Remember, it takes two. It won’t work if
he doesn’t put fresh energy into relationship and let you handle the
paddle.
Facing the future – alone or together?
We can’t expect what might happen in future but while you both facing
crucial time, it’s important to give support to each other. So, when he
takes steps to change, you should also take a look at your own input.
Don’t assume everything going to be alright if he work on it and you’re
already free from take any responsibilities just because he the one who
did wrong. Now, he needs you more than anyone else, and you should be
there to gives support and together nurture the relationship if it’s
going to survive. If he regrets for his mistakes and you already
forgive him, do something that could remind you both to the time when
the world is yours, the wonderful moment you’ve been through together
and forget all the bad things. You can go for a date or having a
romantic dinner together to boost confidence in each other.
It might sound ridiculous giving him too much attention despite he betray
you, but you’ve been come such a long way, being together again after
went through many obstacles, it’s worth your time and this might
brought you both closer than ever. Actually by giving him a chance is
good, because it also open your eyes that you both should wake-up from
a long sleep and start to refresh your relationship. What I’m trying to
say here is, never ever take your partner for granted and remember, no
matter how long you’ve been together or how close you both are, don’t
neglected to nurture the relationship from time to time and don’t
forget to make it together.
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