Ye Mere Deewanapan Hai I Sophia Abella

Saturday, January 30, 2010

Sizzling Sex Confessions

"I always assumed I had a pretty decent sex life — that is, until my pal dished the dirt on how she and her fiancé were regularly burning up their bedroom, "Over lunch one day, she wickedly giggled that she was having incredible orgasms that gave her a round-the-clock, supersensual mind-set." After coaxing her highly satisfied pal to spill her prized secrets, She felt like she had stumbled onto a sexual pot of gold. "His passion pointers have already taken my lust life from so-so to fantastically en fuego.

So what did she learn from her doing-it demon pal? For starters, mattress megaprowess has nothing to do with possessing a perfect bod or loads of experience. What he and other vixens do have is a sex-cessful set of pleasure principles they inherently.

Rounded up those randy rules so you too can become a member of the lusty ladies club — and keep your guy very, very grateful.

1. "I can switch on my sex drive."

Sensually supercharged women don't wait around patiently for the mood to strike. Instead, they set in motion the sex-psyching strategies that work for them every time.

"I conjure up a favorite fantasy — I imagine myself totally naked. "Whether I'm sitting behind my desk at work or I'm at the gym, I'll pretend my clothes are in a heap on the floor and that dozens of hungry male eyes are glued to my body."

Another libido-lifting trick is to wake up your senses: Spritz on your man's cologne, brush satiny fabric against your skin, or suck on some fruit. "Taking time to engage each sense — touch, taste, sound, scent, and sight — will quickly kick-start your lust drive.

2. "My body is my pleasure palace."
A desire diva doesn't waste time fretting about stubble and cellulite or wishing she didn't take so long to climax. Instead, she sees herself as a carnal conduit loaded with sensual capabilities. How did these chicks become so aware of their pleasure points? Chances are, they'll credit masturbation.

To get better acquainted with your sexual self, take their cue and become your own passion professor. It's given me the chance to seek out my innermost hot spots and teach myself how to have a mind-blowing string of O's."

Another hands-on advantage: You take charge of your orgasmic destiny. "When a guy can't find my G-spot, I'll gently take his fingers and guide them. "He still gets to be the source of my pleasure, but I'm the one exploding with ecstasy."

3. "I know I'm a sex goddess."
"I usually do a little striptease before sex — first disrobing seductively in front of my guy, then finishing by shaking my butt. Hearing that, you'd assume I have a tush as tempting as Jennifer Lopez's. Surprise — "Long ago, I learned that men are turned on by a woman who is uninhibited about her sexuality. "My current beau would rather date a confident woman with an imperfect figure than a 36-24-36 chick who's too timid to show her shape."

The tricky thing about sexual confidence, as any carnal cowgirl will admit, is that you need a little to begin with before it can blossom into a natural part of your passion personality. So how do you start? "Fake it at first — that's what I did.

4. "I speak up for myself in the sack."
On-fire femmes know that men love to please. But even the most perceptive guy in the world won't have your moan zones all mapped out. "I tell my partners how I want to be touched. "Then I giggle and scream to reinforce what he's doing. I let guys know how to send me soaring."

If you're not used to being so erotically expressive, clue in your man by praising his sexual performance. Compliment him on what he does do well, then add a subtle suggestion: "It turns me on so much when you kiss my breasts, I'd go wild if you put your hand between my legs too."

Remember: This is the electronic age; email can also be an erotic way to detail your desire directions. "My man's usual sex style — fast thrusting — was too rough. So I sent him a sexy message saying I was imagining him rocking me to a gentle, slo-mo climax. That night, he begged me for a demo. He loved the lighter touch, and now we go slow each time."

5. "It's not if I have an orgasm — it's how."

Women who ooze erotic energy don't view their Big O as a lucky bonus. Instead, reaching the pleasure pinnacle is their right. "Men don't consider it sex unless they have an orgasm. "So why should I settle for almost-but-not-quite?" "I wish every woman would tattoo I deserve great sex on her brain. "Sexual satisfaction is a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you don't expect to be peeled off the ceiling, it won't happen." So start believing that every-time orgasms aren't elusive rewards reserved for select women — they're yours for the taking. "Once I became confident I would be able to come, I started having earth-shaking climaxes.

6. "I've mastered one signature sex move."
"Most women try to please their partners with direct below-the-belt stimulation, so I devote my time to a guy's lesser-known erogenous areas. My favorite place: that fleshy, supersensual web of skin between the thumb and finger. "Most guys I've dated don't even know about this hot spot."

Lust fiends know that mastering at least one unique, naughty-but-nice move can morph you from a hot-and-heavy lover to holy moly! sex-partner status. But you don't have to focus on his G-rated hot spots alone or a specific sexual act. Your signature style can be about invoking an entire mood: sweetly simple, daring and dirty, or pushing the erotic envelope.

7. "I get to know his secret desires."
Sexually charged chiquitas know that ecstasy is much more exciting when you skip the paint-by-numbers passion plan. "There's nothing hotter than getting to know your partner and finding out which unique moves get him going. "He'll be blown away by having a willing woman explore his secret desires."

"Just when I think I know the best oral-sex technique, a new lover and I will discover something I'd never have thought of. "My past partner showed me how to brush a pair of satin panties against his testicles while I'm going down on him. The two different sensations drive him over the edge — I'm afraid our neighbors are going to call the police on us."

Taking the time to experiment with new caresses and positions won't just make your guy grovel, it'll expand your idea of what's sexy. Plus, you'll be able to use your newly discovered moves to whip future lovers into a frenzy.

8. "I never let sex get stale."
Libidinous lasses love traveling to the outer limits of lust. "Once my man and I moved in together, sex went straight from sizzling to snoozeville. "While lazily flipping cable channels late one night, we caught a soft-core movie — and the on-screen action was really turning us on. Now we rent erotic videos whenever our sex life needs energizing."

Bodacious babes know that as soon as sex loses its erotic edge, they have to take fast action. They'll view steamy videos, try a sex toy, leaf through triple-X magazines, act out a secret fantasy, make love in a different location, or test-drive a scorching new position — almost anything in the pursuit of greater pleasure with their partner. To keep the heat in your relationship on high, vow to sample something naughty yet new at least once a week: Surprise your guy by doing the deed in the shower, read erotic books, or duck away from a party into an empty bedroom for a mischievous quickie.

9. "I'm passionate 24-7."
"Sexuality is a round-the-clock activity, not an isolated act you do in 20-minute stretches. "So I'll get up a little early to indulge in a luxurious bath rather than a five-minute shower. Or I'll wear silk stockings instead of drugstore panty hose."

We're not suggesting that silk stockings are a substitute for sizzling sex. But burning babes never separate their lust lives from the rest of their lives. "Great lovers integrate desire into everything they do so they feel sensuous all day long. "I love pre-sex tension and post-sex afterglow as much as I love doing the deed itself, so I'll make these moments extra sensual for me and my guy. "Before sex, I'll flirt with him as if we were meeting for the first time. After we've climaxed, we keep touching each other, basking in how good we feel. Sex is so wonderful, why should it have a clear-cut beginning and end?"

10. "Sex is at the top of my to-do list."
Girls who love sex never make those tired, same-old excuses — "I got my period"; "I had a stressful day"; "I feel sooo fat" — for why they can't hit the sheets. Instead, passion is number one on their to-do lists, and they know that erotic action is the best cure for cramps, stress, and the blues. "Once you put off pleasure, it becomes easier and easier to postpone, and pretty soon you're out of the habit. "It can be hard to get back in the sexual swing of things once your sensual switches have been turned off."

So even if you're not wildly turned on, you'll be doing yourself a favor by slipping into a sensuous state of mind. "When I come home flipped out from a rough day at work, sex is the furthest thing from my mind. "But instead of shutting out my boyfriend, I'd much rather re-spark my desire by kissing his five o'clock shadow and being held in his arms. Our lovemaking that night may not be mind-blowing, but it'll feel good — and making each other feel good keeps our bond strong."





The Single Girl's Valentine's Day


1. Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you’re alone! Round up some unattached chicks and hit the bars, a restaurant, the local karaoke joint, the bowling lanes, whatever. Revel in your ability to have an amazing time, no men needed.

2. Whether it’s George Clooney or Johnny Depp, spend the night with your ultimate celeb crush. Rent a handful of his movies and treat yourself to an eye-candy marathon.

3. Organize a Secret Admirers gifting sesh, à la Secret Santa: You and a group of friends draw names and then deliver items like chocolates, flowers, and teddy bears to each other. That way everyone can have a Valentine...

4. Since you aren’t spending your dough on some dude, might as well spend it on yourself. Give yourself some credit for how amazing you are and treat yourself to something special like a mani-pedi, a new necklace, or a blow-out at the salon.

5. Ask a guy friend out for a platonic date and split a meal at a tasty restaurant. Make a game out of your dinner discussion by looking around the restaurant at all the couples (there will be a ton!) and guessing which ones will actually last, based on their body language.

6. Be a rebel and convince your co-worker bestie to play hooky with you. Instead of sitting in meetings or watching other chicks get flowers delivered to their cubes, you and your pal can go shopping, take a day trip somewhere fun (like skiing!), or catch a new chick flick, sans the crowded theater.

7. Party at your place! Invite friends over for wine, appetizers, gossiping, and good times. To mix it up, make it a theme party, like suggesting that everyone wear all pink (or black, if you caught the “Singles Awareness Day” bug) and create an iPod playlist with songs like “Girls Just Wanna Have Fun” and “Holding Out for a Hero.”

Recipes for Seducing Your Man

Breakfast With Your Boyfriend
Show your guy your love by pampering him with an extraspecial breakfast on a weekend morning. Wake up a little early, and slip this bread pudding into the oven (you make it the day before for ultimate ease). The irresistible smell of cinnamon will come wafting into the bedroom and arouse his senses. Some say it’s a natural aphrodisiac — hint, hint. Spend the rest of the a.m. hours feasting, sipping, and well, whatever just happens to come next.
Cinnamon-Swirl Breakfast Bread Pudding

It is said that the Queen of Sheba used cinnamon to mesmerize King Solomon. So it has power. Prepare this bread pudding ahead of time so that in the morning, all you have to do is turn on the oven.
4 eggs
1½ cups milk
3 tablespoons brown sugar
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
1 teaspoon cinnamon
½ loaf day-old bread, cut into cubes
¼ cup pecans, chopped
Nonstick cooking spray
Maple syrup

In a large bowl, whisk eggs and milk. Add the brown sugar, vanilla extract, and cinnamon, and whisk until all the ingredients are completely incorporated. Stir the bread and pecans into the egg mixture. Coat an 8-inch-by-8-inch baking pan with nonstick cooking spray. Pour in the bread pudding, and cover with foil. Let sit in the refrigerator at least one hour and up to overnight. Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Bake the bread pudding, covered, for 30 minutes. Remove the foil, and bake an additional 10 minutes, until the pudding is browned. Serve hot with maple syrup.

Sexy Picnic for Two
There's something so intimate about a picnic with your guy. And as the temperature begins to rise, eating outside becomes refreshing and romantic. But no boring ham-and-cheese sandwiches or store-bought potato salad here! Entice him with an exotic Middle East-themed menu of foods rich in bold flavors. Pack a colorful blanket or tapestry and a few pillows for lounging. Find a pretty spot to settle down or, if the weather doesn’t cooperate, spread out on the floor of your apartment. Between the aromas and tastes, you’ll be transported.
Meze Platter with Herbed Pita Crisps
Meze is traditional in Greece and Turkey and is the equivalent of tapas or finger food. Make these homemade pita crisps, and buy the rest in the deli at your grocery store. A drizzle of extra-virgin olive oil and a squeeze of lemon juice brighten up all the flavors.
2 T unsalted butter, room temperature
1 T minced fresh herbs (parsley, rosemary, thyme, etc.)
2 pitas, split in half, and each half cut into fourths (use whole wheat for a healthy alternative)
Salt
Hummus
Baba ghanoush (eggplant dip)
Dolmades (stuffed grape leaves)
Greek olives
Tabbouleh salad
Feta cheese
Lemon wedges
Extra-virgin olive oil

For the pita crisps: Preheat oven to 400°F. Use a fork to mix butter and herbs in a bowl, then spread onto the pita slices. Sprinkle with salt, and bake until crisp, about 10 minutes.
For the meze platter: Arrange hummus, baba ghanoush, dolmades, olives, tabbouleh, feta, and lemon on a platter. Drizzle with extra-virgin olive oil, and serve with the pita crisps.

Exotic Summer Dinner
A luxurious vacation may not be in the cards right now, but this meal will make you feel as if you're on holiday in the South Pacific. Invite your guy over for a romantic escape from your usual dinner date. Decorate the table with tropical colors, put on a flowy dress, and if you feel like getting really festive, tuck a flower in your hair. Between the sweet and spicy flavors and summer heat, things are bound to get steamy.
Macadamia Nut-Crusted Tilapia with Pineapple Salsa
The macadamia-nut crust adds a nice crunch, and the pineapple salsa has just the right balance of spicy and sweet flavors.
For fish:
1/2 cup all-purpose flour
1 egg, lightly beaten
1 cup crushed macadamia nuts
2 tilapia fillets (about 3 to 4 ounces each)
For salsa:
1 cup finely chopped fresh pineapple
1 tablespoon minced red onion
1/2 jalapeño, seeds removed, minced
1/4 cup minced cilantro
Salt and pepper
Preheat oven to 400 degrees. Put flour, egg, and nuts in three separate shallow dishes. Dredge each fillet first in flour, then egg, then nuts. Place on oiled baking sheet. Bake 12 to 14 minutes, until golden brown.
While fish is baking, make the salsa. Combine pineapple, onion, jalapeño, and cilantro. Season with salt and pepper. Serve with fish. The fish is done when it is opaque and flakes easily with a fork.

Cozy Winter Meal
It may be cold outside, but that's all the more reason to heat things up inside. Hibernate with your guy and savor this simple yet luxurious dinner. Potpies stretch an expensive ingredient like lobster, and their creamy sauce coupled with a buttery, flaky crust might as well spell c-o-z-y. Serve with a light green salad and bottle of champagne.
Lobster Potpie

These potpies are so pretty that you almost don't want to eat them. Almost!
2 tablespoons unsalted butter
½ onion, diced
1 carrot, diced
½ cup frozen corn
½ cup frozen peas
¼ cup all-purpose flour
1 cup milk
1 cup chicken broth
½ pound cooked lobster meat (can be bought at the seafood counter)
½ teaspoon dried thyme
Salt and pepper
1 sheet frozen puff pastry, thawed (keep refrigerated until ready to use)
1 large egg, lightly beaten

Preheat oven to 375 degrees. Set out two 2-cup individual ovenproof bowls. Melt butter in a medium skillet over medium heat. Add diced onion and carrot. Cook, stirring occasionally, for about 5 minutes. Add corn and peas. Stir in flour, and cook 1 more minute. Add milk and chicken broth, stirring constantly. Cook until the sauce begins to thicken, about 5 minutes. Then remove from heat, add lobster and thyme, and season with salt and pepper. Set aside.
Remove the puff pastry from the refrigerator. Cut the dough in half, and reserve one half for another use. On a lightly floured surface, flatten out the pastry, using a floured rolling pin, to about 1⁄8-inch thickness. Using one of the bowls as a guide, cut the pastry into two circles. Spoon the filling into the bowls, and place one circle of dough on top of each potpie, pressing the edges to seal the pastry to the bowl. Cut a vent in the center so air and moisture can escape. Using a pastry brush, cover the entire surface of each pie with beaten egg. Place the potpies on a baking sheet. Bake until the pastry is puffed and becomes a dark golden brown shade, about 35 minutes.

Easy Double-Date Dinner
Instead of eating out for your next foursome, have another couple over, and show off your cooking skills. This isn't the time to get fancy with soufflés and beurre blanc sauces — fix a meal that can be made mostly ahead of time so your guy isn't left to entertain while you spend all night avoiding kitchen disasters.
Lasagna Spirals

Lasagna can be time-consuming, but these spirals are done in a snap! Even better, the individual servings look so elegant.
1 teaspoon olive oil
10 lasagna noodles
1 pound ricotta cheese
1 10-ounce package chopped frozen spinach, thawed (squeeze out water)
1 cup mozzarella cheese, shredded
6 basil leaves, chopped
1 egg, lightly beaten
1 garlic clove, minced
½ teaspoon each salt and pepper
4 cups tomato sauce
1 cup grated Parmesan cheese

Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Bring a large pot of salted water to boil. Add olive oil. Cook noodles 7 to 8 minutes. Drain. Mix ricotta, spinach, mozzarella, basil, egg, garlic, salt, and pepper in a bowl. Spread 1 cup tomato sauce in the bottom of a baking dish. Spread each noodle with a layer of ricotta mixture, then roll up and place seam side down into the dish. Top spirals with 1½ cups tomato sauce and ½ cup Parmesan cheese. Bake 20 minutes. Serve with extra sauce and cheese on the side.

Make Up After Fighting Snack
If you’ve had a fight, nothing will ease the tension like a sweet treat, such as my No-Bake Chocolate Oatmeal Cookies. One bite and he’ll forget there was ever a problem. Plus, chocolate is an aphrodisiac, so who knows where you two could end up next!
No-Bake Chocolate Oatmeal Cookies

Yields about 30 cookies
2 c. sugar
8 T (1 stick) unsalted butter
1/3 c. cocoa powder
1/2 c. milk
1 t. pure vanilla extract
1/2 c. peanut butter, creamy or crunchy
2 1/2 to 3 c. rolled oats

In a medium saucepan, combine the sugar, butter, cocoa, milk, and vanilla. Bring to a slow boil, and simmer until the sugar has dissolved. Stir in the peanut butter. Remove from the heat. Stir in 2 1/2 c. oats. The mixture should be thick. Add the remaining 1/2 c. oats if necessary. Line a cookie sheet with parchment paper. Drop the mixture by the heaping tablespoonful onto the parchment. Allow the cookies to firm up at room temperature, about one hour.

Dessert To Win Over His Parents
When you're going to meet your man's mom and dad, it's always nice to bring them something homemade and from the heart. Make this delicious Nutty Banana Bread, and when it cools, swath it neatly in plastic wrap then paper, and tie with a beautiful ribbon — it shows that you put thought and time into it. Presenting it to them the moment you arrive is a great icebreaker. The next morning, when his clan breaks out the bread for breakfast, they'll remember how thoughtful you were and how much they liked you.
Nutty Banana Bread

Yields 6 to 8 servings
2 c. all-purpose flour
3/4 t. baking soda
1/2 t. baking powder
1/2 t. kosher salt
1 c. sugar
1/2 c. canola oil
2 large eggs
1 t. pure vanilla extract
1/2c. buttermilk
3 medium bananas, mashed
1/2 c. walnuts, finely minced (about 2 oz.)

Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease a 9-by-5-by-3-inch loaf pan. In a small bowl, mix the flour, baking soda, baking powder, and salt. In a medium bowl, beat together the sugar, oil, eggs, and vanilla until well combined. Alternately add the dry ingredients and the buttermilk in three additions. Gently stir in the bananas and nuts. Pour the batter into the loaf pan. Bake for 45 to 55 minutes, until a toothpick comes out clean. Let the bread cool in the pan for 5 minutes. Carefully turn out the loaf to finish cooling on a wire rack.

Make Him Pop The Question
I think any man can be won over by being fed my Chicken with Roasted Garlic, Pancetta, and Rosemary. Guys love the crispy chicken with the smoky bacon and earthy flavors of the roasted garlic and rosemary. Serve it up with some mashed potatoes and he might just drop down on one knee right then and there!
Crispy Oven-Roasted Chicken with Roasted Garlic, Pancetta, and Rosemary

Yields 6 servings
6 boneless, skin-on chicken-breast halves
Kosher salt
Freshly ground black pepper
1/2 lb. pancetta or slab bacon, cut into 1/2-inch cubes
1 T olive oil
15 garlic cloves
Canola oil
1 T fresh rosemary, chopped, plus sprigs for garnish

Preheat oven to 400°F. Rinse chicken, and pat dry. Salt and pepper each piece. Set aside. In a medium ovenproof skillet over medium heat, cook the pancetta until crispy, about 6 minutes. Remove with a slotted spoon, and set aside. Drain off all but 1 tablespoon of the fat. Add the olive oil and garlic. Cook until the cloves are golden, then bake in the oven until the cloves are soft, 5 to 7 minutes. Carefully remove the pan from the oven, and set aside.
Meanwhile, in a large ovenproof skillet, heat 1 inch of canola oil over high heat until very hot but not smoking. Carefully place the chicken skin-side down in the hot oil. Let cook 3 to 4 minutes to start crisping the skin. Do not turn. Carefully transfer the pan to the oven, and bake until the chicken is cooked through, 7 to 8 minutes. Remove the pan from the oven, and plate.