Love on Internet‏

But the main point of my blog is that, while not everyone out there is out to do harm to others over the internet, the idea of having a long distance relationship with someone you have never met is, in itself, dangerous. I know many others who have been through it and everyone agrees that the symptoms are the sameFirst of all talking to someone on the phone feels very comfortable and safe. It is like the most intimate relationship you can have, and yet it maintains a distance that seems so safe. You only see each other at your best. You are so happy while talking and are basically just telling stories that you even downplay your faults when and if you even mention them. You do not see any of the mannerisms or habits that might irritate or bother you about one another. It is too easy to fall into the silly romantic pet names calling and talk. You find yourself actually thinking about a future with this dream person. You begin feeling like you have found your other. You think you are in love. But it is all make-believe. You cannot fall in love with someone truly that you have never even met. Even after meeting, true love requires time to get to know one another truly in the world and to develop. But by the time people sucked up in this kind of thing do meet, more often than not they are so wrapped up in the fantasy that they are completely incapable of seeing the other person as anything but the object of the fantasy running through their own head. I implore everyone out there to really try to only date people through these personal sites that you can meet very soon after finding that their is a mutual interest. If the person lives far away, and is going to be in your area or vice versa, then arrange to plan a meeting when you are close and avoid the phone calls. Save that for after you have already spent some time together and found that you have the interest in the real world before getting wrapped up in anything.And if you see anyone important to you in your life getting wrapped up in something like this, I encourage you to talk to them and urge them to be guarded and careful about it. Not even taking into account just general safety, but because it is not a real thing and nothing healthy will come of it. Even if the person might be someone that you could have something with, this kind of a thing will color it and keep you from truly being able to make the decision rationally.I thank you for letting me ramble and hope that someone gets something from what I have said. I would have given anything and would still, to have someone be able to help us in this before it got so out of hand.