After reading, I had to pause and think about how I perceive mentoring. I had to think back to all the people I've known in the lifestyle over the years. I've known a few that have mentored and/or been mentored. But I've often wondered something.
Frequently, when you hear people talk about "Mentoring", what they are describing is more a way to lure someone into a state of co-dependence; A Dom taking advantage of a submissive seeking exposure to the lifestyle. Stylistically, it's more akin to isolating a person away from other opinions or experiences. It's more like a means to make a move on an unsuspecting and/or vulnerable person in their care. This type of "Mentoring" has no similarities to what sincere Mentoring is. It uses the emotional attachment as a manipulating force. It's less about education and exposure, more about brainwashing.
Ironically, a Dominant working with a submissive is the most common pairing of mentoring I've heard. Mind you, I can only count on two hands how many people I personally know that have been involved in some form of mentorship, but all the ones that have had good things said about them have followed the same general principles.
1. A good Mentor works with others having no ulterior motives beyond offering their experience to another. Their primary goal is to work with the mentee and navigate their path for full possibilities. There is not an expectation of gaining some advantage or anything outside of the exchange of knowledge.
2. As a Mentor, it's not about the sex. While serving as a Mentor, they never engaged in physical sex with their mentee. Their focus was on the education and exposure. Guiding and leading.
3. They had defined goals with each other. If something arose that was ambiguous, it was evaluated and discussed. 'Why something might have caused an adverse reaction' that kind of thing.
4. There was a specific duration of time to the mentorship agreement. It wasn't an endless uncharted amble. It had a start point and an end point, clearly defined.
Now, the few alpha sub/switch mentorings of a submissive I've heard discussed have been somewhere along the same lines as above. The only thing substantially different that I can think of would be that these tended to be relationships where someone with previous exposure, but newer to the specific community, was being instructed on what to expect. Obviously, since I don't have a broad sample to rely upon, my full understanding is somewhat limited.
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Monday, November 16, 2009
A Freaky Woman's Dream
Last night we met in my dreams. You picked me up at the Airport and we had our longing embraces with a tender kiss that warmed our sensual being. It was such a tender moment that people in the airport applauded our first moment together. The tender kiss was far from enough to satisfy the fire that burned inside. On the way to the Car, we walked with our arms wrapped around each other at the waist. Gently squeezing each other and wanting to go lower. Once we reached the car, we climbed into the back seat and stared into each others eyes and we drew even closer embracing in a long and passionate kiss...my hand roamed over your breasts, down to your stomach caressing you.
The Kiss turned to a raging fire burning out of control as my hand went lower and gently massaged your burning rod of passion now fully extended. I could feel your wetness and it drew my mouth down so I could taste its sweetness. I licked at every divine morsel and then put my lips on the end of your shaft then sliding my lips over the tip and further down onto your shaft and massaged the base with my tongue and then as I take my lips back up your shaft. I feel and hear you moan with delight as the sensual skin on your shaft grows ever hotter. I want to increase the sensual pleasure you are feeling. I take my finger down and feel the wetness of you now hot big cock. My passion builds. I gently insert my finger and begin to massage it's walls and I can feel your cock pulsing through the walls of your ass. A slight increase in pressure and as I suck the tip of your burning rod I stroke its base. You are ready to explode and I softly lick the tip of your beautiful cock as I massage your ass pushing my finger in and out and then I go down on your cock and suck on it until you explode in my mouth and I swallow every last drop of your delicious nectar wanting more and so ended our first kiss...I awaken and I realize that it was only a dream and I started to cry.
The Kiss turned to a raging fire burning out of control as my hand went lower and gently massaged your burning rod of passion now fully extended. I could feel your wetness and it drew my mouth down so I could taste its sweetness. I licked at every divine morsel and then put my lips on the end of your shaft then sliding my lips over the tip and further down onto your shaft and massaged the base with my tongue and then as I take my lips back up your shaft. I feel and hear you moan with delight as the sensual skin on your shaft grows ever hotter. I want to increase the sensual pleasure you are feeling. I take my finger down and feel the wetness of you now hot big cock. My passion builds. I gently insert my finger and begin to massage it's walls and I can feel your cock pulsing through the walls of your ass. A slight increase in pressure and as I suck the tip of your burning rod I stroke its base. You are ready to explode and I softly lick the tip of your beautiful cock as I massage your ass pushing my finger in and out and then I go down on your cock and suck on it until you explode in my mouth and I swallow every last drop of your delicious nectar wanting more and so ended our first kiss...I awaken and I realize that it was only a dream and I started to cry.
Sunday, November 15, 2009
Sex Education For the Real World
You know, when we're just plain horny -- rather than interested in really sharing sex, emotionally and physically, with another person -- the best choice to make is to masturbate. That's not just best for us, it's also better for any potential partners: if often isn't so great to be someone's personal petrie dish.
Masturbation is all about satiating our sole sexual desires, for when we're just sexually hungry and not interested in emotional and physical intimacy with someone else in particular. It's also the best kind of sex to have when we're not 100% certain that we're ready for all that partnered sex entails, or for when we haven't resolved any conflicts we might have in having partnered sex. And it's certainly something that tends to result in people coming to partnered sex with better readiness than they might otherwise: the very best first sex partner for everyone is ourselves.
You're also going to need a lot more going on to be ready for sex with someone else than sexual desire. You'll need to be ready to assert yourself, to communicate and negotiate, even when it's awkward or emotionally uncomfortable and you're feeling really vulnerable. You'll need to be ready to manage your expectations, and be just as prepared for pleasure and closeness as you are for emotional distance and things not feeling good for you at all. You'll need to be ready to get and manage sexual healthcare, and that can be tricky when you're very young without the support -- or knowledge -- of any adults. You're going to want to have a pretty good bunch of sexuality and sexual health information under your belt before taking your sexuality on the road. In short, healthy partnered sex that's beneficial for us usually only happens with a whole lot more in place than the want to have sex because we feel that desire.
Ultimately, the best sexual choices to make are the ones that fit YOUR feelings, ethics and values, wants and needs best -- not those things for anyone who isn't you or the person you may be having sex with. By all means, it can be really hard when those choices are in sharp conflict with your family's values (and sex is always healthier when it doesn't have to be hidden or secret), but in the long term, for you, what's most important is that YOU are the one who is totally okay with and can stand behind your choices, even to your parents.
So, I'd suggest that you start with being your own sex partner, with masturbation. Not only is that something that'll give you a good start on getting to know and understand your own sexuality and sexual likes and dislikes -- which are important things to be able to share with a partner, but also important for the sexuality that's just yours and not about anyone else at all -- it'll also help quiet that strong desire you're feeling right now. That's important, because we do need a level head when we're making these choices, so if we're all kooky-lusty-crazy when we're trying to make them, it can really cloud our judgement. More to the point, you're much more likely to be able to learn to satisfy yourself more wickly than it usually happens with a new sexual partner, so choosing to try sex with a partner because we're looking to get off isn't usually the greatest choice, for a lot of reasons, but that includes because sex with a new partner is often much more clumsy and less physically satisfying than it is with ourselves or a partner we have spent a lot of time with, or had sex with, over time.
In the meantime, you can start your own sexual education by looking into some information that will inform your choices, and take all the time you need to figure out if sex with someone else is really what you want, now or later, and really right for you, by your own standards, not those of your parents or anyone else.
Masturbation is all about satiating our sole sexual desires, for when we're just sexually hungry and not interested in emotional and physical intimacy with someone else in particular. It's also the best kind of sex to have when we're not 100% certain that we're ready for all that partnered sex entails, or for when we haven't resolved any conflicts we might have in having partnered sex. And it's certainly something that tends to result in people coming to partnered sex with better readiness than they might otherwise: the very best first sex partner for everyone is ourselves.
You're also going to need a lot more going on to be ready for sex with someone else than sexual desire. You'll need to be ready to assert yourself, to communicate and negotiate, even when it's awkward or emotionally uncomfortable and you're feeling really vulnerable. You'll need to be ready to manage your expectations, and be just as prepared for pleasure and closeness as you are for emotional distance and things not feeling good for you at all. You'll need to be ready to get and manage sexual healthcare, and that can be tricky when you're very young without the support -- or knowledge -- of any adults. You're going to want to have a pretty good bunch of sexuality and sexual health information under your belt before taking your sexuality on the road. In short, healthy partnered sex that's beneficial for us usually only happens with a whole lot more in place than the want to have sex because we feel that desire.
Ultimately, the best sexual choices to make are the ones that fit YOUR feelings, ethics and values, wants and needs best -- not those things for anyone who isn't you or the person you may be having sex with. By all means, it can be really hard when those choices are in sharp conflict with your family's values (and sex is always healthier when it doesn't have to be hidden or secret), but in the long term, for you, what's most important is that YOU are the one who is totally okay with and can stand behind your choices, even to your parents.
So, I'd suggest that you start with being your own sex partner, with masturbation. Not only is that something that'll give you a good start on getting to know and understand your own sexuality and sexual likes and dislikes -- which are important things to be able to share with a partner, but also important for the sexuality that's just yours and not about anyone else at all -- it'll also help quiet that strong desire you're feeling right now. That's important, because we do need a level head when we're making these choices, so if we're all kooky-lusty-crazy when we're trying to make them, it can really cloud our judgement. More to the point, you're much more likely to be able to learn to satisfy yourself more wickly than it usually happens with a new sexual partner, so choosing to try sex with a partner because we're looking to get off isn't usually the greatest choice, for a lot of reasons, but that includes because sex with a new partner is often much more clumsy and less physically satisfying than it is with ourselves or a partner we have spent a lot of time with, or had sex with, over time.
In the meantime, you can start your own sexual education by looking into some information that will inform your choices, and take all the time you need to figure out if sex with someone else is really what you want, now or later, and really right for you, by your own standards, not those of your parents or anyone else.
Erotic Fantasy
Man said, "Geez Sophia" I never knew what a kinky little girl you were!” as he held up my vibrator. “Incest?” he continued. I tried to explain it’s not like I would ever do it or even condone it just the stories are hot sometimes. I got the feeling I wasn’t convincing him, so I began to beg! I pleaded, “ Please can we just keep this whole thing a secret? This is so incredibly humiliating and I’d die if any of this got out.” You with a devilish grin responded, “Okay if you take off your lingerie for me. I’ve been dying to see you naked and that was too quick!” My first thought was to tell him no way, but then I thought this would really suck if it gets out and he already saw me naked even if only for a second.
So I just did it without saying a word, I drop my lingerie to the floor and stood there naked in front of him. His eyes opened wide, like he was trying to memorize every detail of my body. It was embarrassing let very erotic! Guy was 36 years old, 6 footer and has a very well defined body. I’ve seen him without a shirt on and he is very muscular. He was wearing sweat pants and I noticed he cock growing and jutting outward. He said, “Damn Sophia you are the most beautiful girl I’ve ever seen!” I took that as a big compliment because I knew he fucked his share of girls! He said, “I wanna see you use this on yourself” as he handed me the vibrator. I don’t know what I was thinking, but I took it from him and sat down on my bed with my legs spread wide and my feet up on the mattress. I turned it on and began to rub it around my clit. I was surprised that I actually enjoyed masturbating in front of him. With my free hand I began fondling my tits and pulling on my nipples, “Oh yeah tug on those nipples!” He was sliding the vibrator all the way in and out and I wanted to cum so bad! He approached me and then lowered his sweat pants exposing the biggest cock I’ve ever seen! It was truly amazing! It was 9 inches long, very thick, the head was fat and round and for some reason the fact it was straight white got me even more turned on.
He didn’t have to ask, he just guided it towards my mouth and I opened as wide as I could and started sucking on it. Quite honestly, at this point I wasn’t even thinking about any men just about the huge cock now in my mouth and about the huge orgasm that was building up inside me. I was sucking only about half way down his shaft and he asked me to go down further, so I did. At that moment I learned the true meaning of deep throating!He said, “Man! You really know how to suck cock!” As he just keep moaning. I gagged each time my lips reached his pubic hair, after a couple of times I removed his cock from my mouth and said, “Damn your cock is huge!” Then I licked the head in a circular motion before I went back to sucking on his white long pole. I would occasionally deep throat it but for the most part I would only go a little more than half way down, which was equivalent to taking a ruler cock all the way in my mouth. My blow job lasted about 15 minutes and I started bobbing my head up and down on his cock quicker until I was a sucking machine. He finally couldn’t take it any more! He grabbed the back of my head with his hands and as he moaned even louder he exploded in my mouth! but I got no such warning from him.
He was holding my head in place, so I had no choice but to take every drop of his cum and swallow it down. At this point though I was cumming myself as I was still fucking my pussy ass with the vibrator and rubbing my long clit with my other hand, so I didn’t mind having my belly filled with his semen.When we were both finished having our orgasms he pushed me down on the bed so I was lying on my back. Without a word he proceed to kiss, lick and suck of every inch of my body. I was in pure ecstasy. His tongue went from my ear to my neck where he left me a big hicky. The whole time he finger fucked me with his long fingers. He worked his way down to my tits and took turns sucking on each others cock. He’d suck on my nipple then grab the tip of it with his teeth, biting gently, and pull it as far as it would stretch then he go back to sucking it. He’d repeat this process on the other nipple. He stopped momentarily to say, “I love your big tits, they’re perfect!” Then he went back to sucking on them. I was moaning as he played my body like his instrument. After a while he finally reached my very wet pussy. I was hoping, no dying, for him to go down on me! I love receiving oral sex and was very happy he was returning the favor.
Most guys after a blowjob would be like thank you and good night, so I really appreciate this. He was very good at it too, spending the right amount of time alternating between running his tongue between my pussy lips and twirling it around my swollen clit. I told him, “I’m gonna cum please don’t stop!”Just then he did exactly that…HE STOPPED! I was so disappointed! I was so close to a big orgasm. I quickly said, “No please don’t stop!”As I said that he stood up and I saw his cock was hard again. He said, “Don’t worry I’m gonna make you cum like you never have before.” I said, “Ammm I can’t…I want you to fuck me so bad. I was silent for a moment then reluctantly said, “Okay.” Truth is I wanted to fuck him so bad and I wanted to have that big orgasm he just had me on the verge of. This was just an excuse to fuck him and still try to keep my good girl image. Truth is I wanted to fuck him so bad and I wanted to have that big orgasm he just had me on the verge of. This was just an excuse to fuck him and still try to keep my good girl image. He laid down on the bed and told me, “I want you to fuck me. Hop on!” He was holding his long black cock straight up. I eagerly got on top of him and slowly lowered myself down upon it. It felt so huge! I’ve never had anything that big in my cunt before. It hurt and when I finally lowered myself all the way down on it I just sat on it motionless while I tried to adjust to its girth. Max moaned, “Your pussy is so fucking tight!” I sighed and said, “Your cock is so fucking huge!”
We both smiled and then I started to fuck him. He encouraged me and consoled me as I tried to handle his massive cock. It hurt but it also felt so good! I couldn’t believe I was fucking my guy! As I got use to the size I started to enjoy it more and began to pick up the pace, which he loved. He said, “That’s a girl ride my cock!” I loved that he said that.I was on the verge of a big orgasm but realized he wasn’t wearing a condom. He replied, “No problem.” I started to cum immediately after he said that. It hit me hard! Every muscle in my body tightened and my asshole began convulsing. I was screaming as I bounced on his huge cock as fast as I could! It was without a doubt the best orgasm of my life! Plus it was one wave of pleasure after another and I just kept cumming. My tight cunt was like a vice grip on his cock, it was like my pussy was milking him and that’s what I got! I felt his big cock start to pulsate and I knew his semen was jetting inside of me. He was now fucking me back, meeting my downward thrust with an upward thrust of his hips.
We were fucking so intense, so loud! The impact from our thrusts was making loud popping noises and we were both moaning at the top of our lungs. The entire floor had to hear us. Amazingly this seemed to last forever, we both just kept cumming! Finally I collapsed on his chest in exhaustion his cock still buried deep inside me.It was the best sex of my young life, but he was still hard and had a little left in him. Did I mention what a stallion he is? He rolled me over and now with me laying on my back on the bed and him on top he starting fucking me some more. My poor pussy was feeling sore and I was so spent but I liked that he was still fucking me. His muscular arms were extended lifting his chest off mine. He didn’t fuck me long in this position but he was jack-hammering pussy unmercifully and it took all I could to withstand his onslaught! I felt obligated to let him get off after how he just made me feel. So I just grunt and bear it!
My tits were bouncy uncontrollably, so I grabbed them and held them in place. I’ve never felt such power pounding away at my pussy. After five minutes he deposited one final load of his thick gooey cum into my battered cunt. This time he collapsed next to me, much to my relief, and then we just held each other until we both caught our breath. After a little while he got dressed and left.As far as he goes I don’t know what to do with him either. I can’t get him out of my head and I want to fuck him again in few days when my pussy is not so sore but I know I can’t. The one thing I know for sure is I’m enjoying every moments we share with our " love making ".
So I just did it without saying a word, I drop my lingerie to the floor and stood there naked in front of him. His eyes opened wide, like he was trying to memorize every detail of my body. It was embarrassing let very erotic! Guy was 36 years old, 6 footer and has a very well defined body. I’ve seen him without a shirt on and he is very muscular. He was wearing sweat pants and I noticed he cock growing and jutting outward. He said, “Damn Sophia you are the most beautiful girl I’ve ever seen!” I took that as a big compliment because I knew he fucked his share of girls! He said, “I wanna see you use this on yourself” as he handed me the vibrator. I don’t know what I was thinking, but I took it from him and sat down on my bed with my legs spread wide and my feet up on the mattress. I turned it on and began to rub it around my clit. I was surprised that I actually enjoyed masturbating in front of him. With my free hand I began fondling my tits and pulling on my nipples, “Oh yeah tug on those nipples!” He was sliding the vibrator all the way in and out and I wanted to cum so bad! He approached me and then lowered his sweat pants exposing the biggest cock I’ve ever seen! It was truly amazing! It was 9 inches long, very thick, the head was fat and round and for some reason the fact it was straight white got me even more turned on.
He didn’t have to ask, he just guided it towards my mouth and I opened as wide as I could and started sucking on it. Quite honestly, at this point I wasn’t even thinking about any men just about the huge cock now in my mouth and about the huge orgasm that was building up inside me. I was sucking only about half way down his shaft and he asked me to go down further, so I did. At that moment I learned the true meaning of deep throating!He said, “Man! You really know how to suck cock!” As he just keep moaning. I gagged each time my lips reached his pubic hair, after a couple of times I removed his cock from my mouth and said, “Damn your cock is huge!” Then I licked the head in a circular motion before I went back to sucking on his white long pole. I would occasionally deep throat it but for the most part I would only go a little more than half way down, which was equivalent to taking a ruler cock all the way in my mouth. My blow job lasted about 15 minutes and I started bobbing my head up and down on his cock quicker until I was a sucking machine. He finally couldn’t take it any more! He grabbed the back of my head with his hands and as he moaned even louder he exploded in my mouth! but I got no such warning from him.
He was holding my head in place, so I had no choice but to take every drop of his cum and swallow it down. At this point though I was cumming myself as I was still fucking my pussy ass with the vibrator and rubbing my long clit with my other hand, so I didn’t mind having my belly filled with his semen.When we were both finished having our orgasms he pushed me down on the bed so I was lying on my back. Without a word he proceed to kiss, lick and suck of every inch of my body. I was in pure ecstasy. His tongue went from my ear to my neck where he left me a big hicky. The whole time he finger fucked me with his long fingers. He worked his way down to my tits and took turns sucking on each others cock. He’d suck on my nipple then grab the tip of it with his teeth, biting gently, and pull it as far as it would stretch then he go back to sucking it. He’d repeat this process on the other nipple. He stopped momentarily to say, “I love your big tits, they’re perfect!” Then he went back to sucking on them. I was moaning as he played my body like his instrument. After a while he finally reached my very wet pussy. I was hoping, no dying, for him to go down on me! I love receiving oral sex and was very happy he was returning the favor.
Most guys after a blowjob would be like thank you and good night, so I really appreciate this. He was very good at it too, spending the right amount of time alternating between running his tongue between my pussy lips and twirling it around my swollen clit. I told him, “I’m gonna cum please don’t stop!”Just then he did exactly that…HE STOPPED! I was so disappointed! I was so close to a big orgasm. I quickly said, “No please don’t stop!”As I said that he stood up and I saw his cock was hard again. He said, “Don’t worry I’m gonna make you cum like you never have before.” I said, “Ammm I can’t…I want you to fuck me so bad. I was silent for a moment then reluctantly said, “Okay.” Truth is I wanted to fuck him so bad and I wanted to have that big orgasm he just had me on the verge of. This was just an excuse to fuck him and still try to keep my good girl image. Truth is I wanted to fuck him so bad and I wanted to have that big orgasm he just had me on the verge of. This was just an excuse to fuck him and still try to keep my good girl image. He laid down on the bed and told me, “I want you to fuck me. Hop on!” He was holding his long black cock straight up. I eagerly got on top of him and slowly lowered myself down upon it. It felt so huge! I’ve never had anything that big in my cunt before. It hurt and when I finally lowered myself all the way down on it I just sat on it motionless while I tried to adjust to its girth. Max moaned, “Your pussy is so fucking tight!” I sighed and said, “Your cock is so fucking huge!”
We both smiled and then I started to fuck him. He encouraged me and consoled me as I tried to handle his massive cock. It hurt but it also felt so good! I couldn’t believe I was fucking my guy! As I got use to the size I started to enjoy it more and began to pick up the pace, which he loved. He said, “That’s a girl ride my cock!” I loved that he said that.I was on the verge of a big orgasm but realized he wasn’t wearing a condom. He replied, “No problem.” I started to cum immediately after he said that. It hit me hard! Every muscle in my body tightened and my asshole began convulsing. I was screaming as I bounced on his huge cock as fast as I could! It was without a doubt the best orgasm of my life! Plus it was one wave of pleasure after another and I just kept cumming. My tight cunt was like a vice grip on his cock, it was like my pussy was milking him and that’s what I got! I felt his big cock start to pulsate and I knew his semen was jetting inside of me. He was now fucking me back, meeting my downward thrust with an upward thrust of his hips.
We were fucking so intense, so loud! The impact from our thrusts was making loud popping noises and we were both moaning at the top of our lungs. The entire floor had to hear us. Amazingly this seemed to last forever, we both just kept cumming! Finally I collapsed on his chest in exhaustion his cock still buried deep inside me.It was the best sex of my young life, but he was still hard and had a little left in him. Did I mention what a stallion he is? He rolled me over and now with me laying on my back on the bed and him on top he starting fucking me some more. My poor pussy was feeling sore and I was so spent but I liked that he was still fucking me. His muscular arms were extended lifting his chest off mine. He didn’t fuck me long in this position but he was jack-hammering pussy unmercifully and it took all I could to withstand his onslaught! I felt obligated to let him get off after how he just made me feel. So I just grunt and bear it!
My tits were bouncy uncontrollably, so I grabbed them and held them in place. I’ve never felt such power pounding away at my pussy. After five minutes he deposited one final load of his thick gooey cum into my battered cunt. This time he collapsed next to me, much to my relief, and then we just held each other until we both caught our breath. After a little while he got dressed and left.As far as he goes I don’t know what to do with him either. I can’t get him out of my head and I want to fuck him again in few days when my pussy is not so sore but I know I can’t. The one thing I know for sure is I’m enjoying every moments we share with our " love making ".
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